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How do you go about solving a problem?   There are several ways that are used to define a problem.  Probably as many ways are there are ‘persons’ in any language.  ‘Person’ being as first person, I or me, us, we, our;  then, second person, as you; and then, third person, as he, she, it, they, them or their.  Do you see that problems are often defined as belonging to someone, either third person, second person and first person.  When we define a problem beginning with the second or third person, we are then defining ourself as a victim.  Now, maybe that is the case, but let’s look more closely.  If we define the problem out side of first person, me or I, then who is responsible for this problem and who can implement the solution?  If I feel that there is a problem, then I must define the problem based on what I consider the problem to be.  And I must take full responsiblity for discovering and implementing a solution.  I must decide in order to resolve the problem.  I might resort to deciding to do nothing and therefore, abide and live with the problem.  This is not really the best kind of solution, but sometimes it works to give us a new perspective to find a different definition of the problem and therefore a different and better solution.  I may also decide to try a number of obvious possible solutions to see what result I get.  This is like the ‘stab in the dark’ kind of solution.  Very often it does not solve the problem and only makes the problem more acutely painful.  Of course it could then get the other person’s attention thus generating some discussion about the problem.  But if I am not willing to own the thing that really annoys me, causes me a problem, then I will not adequately define the problem in order to discover an adequate solution.  I have learned that I can communicate only my problem to another person and ask to seek for a solution.        

Self-Reflecting as Soul Reflection                                

When we connect with our Soul and have an inner deep discussion about this problem with our Soul, we are self-reflecting, we are putting the problem into words and we are listening to our Soul reflect back.        Have your ever felt a desire to know about something, to find what someone else might be saying about a particular topic?  You might go to a library to seek out the topic, to find an answer.  Or you might go to the internet and search for your topic to find the resources available with possible answers.  In this process you are lead by your inner voice which suggests key words for your topic and the answer you seek.   Ultimately you will come up with information on your topic and then you begin to refine your search for an answer.  Always your Soul is guiding you whether you are intentionaly asking for it or not.  Your Soul is focused on the solution, not on the problem.  So your Soul is immediately seeking to guide you to the best solution.  Self-reflecting, listening to your Soul, is then asking the questions that focus on the solutions.  When we focus on discovery of the solution, after taking full responsibility for the clear definition of the problem and the certain creation of the problem, we are then open to perceiving the solution.  Our Soul is truly about our refining and redefining who we are by releasing what no longer contributes to provide us with a fulfilling life.  When we connect with our Soul, we are ready to hear solutions.  We may not like the solution we receive, but when we allow that we asked and we are willing to receive what is being given, we can let go of our resistance to receive and accept the answer and take action to implement the solution.  With our Soul, we do not really have problems, we truly are provided opportunities to let go of that which no longer serves our wellbeing.  We are available to learn, to preceive, and to know more deeply what life is truly showing us. Our Soul wants to bring us into the experience of joy, of love, health and wealth that is directly available to us, that allows us to align within and without and to accept the solutions that bring us easily into living a life of fulfillment.  With Soul we can awaken to discover new solutions to old problems, easily, moment to moment.  If you would like a FREE report, “The Seven Steps to Living a Fulfilling Life”  come to http://www.awarenessofoneness.com   May Much Love Flow Through Your Life Always,  Arielette 

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